Learning to Thrive in Ambiguity

I’d be thrilled to know if you find this post valuable, but in full disclosure, for me, writing this was my therapy.

This isn’t an authorized list. There hasn’t been any research backing it up. It’s just a list of things that I’m doing now because ambiguity is part of life and I have chosen not to be a victim of circumstance.

  1. Be honest with yourself. You need to assess the situation. What’s going on? Are things good or bad? How is morale? Is leaving an option? Why or why not? Should you leave? This line of questions gets crazy and is very specific to each of us individually. You need to be honest about how things are really going. It won’t help you, your team, or the organization to pretend that things aren’t a bit wonky. This doesn’t give you license to speak negatively or to start being a naysayer. To put it plainly, it’s the person that knows they are sick that goes to the doctor.
  2. Reset your expectations. Throughout my life my expectations have had a major impact on my experiences. If I plan on having steak for dinner and end up with salad, I’m disappointed. If I go on vacation to the beach and it rains the whole time, it’s quite likely that vacation will be ruined. Often, my expectations set me up for failure because I feel like circumstances should turn out differently. Nothing was promised to me. I understand that nothing is owed to me but that doesn’t stop me from setting expectations for how things should be. In times of ambiguity, it’s not uncommon to look for stability. Looking for stability and even desiring it is not bad, but don’t start a narrative in your head based on a set of bad expectations.
  3. Focus on the tasks at hand. It’s quite likely in your ambiguity that there’s a lot of work to do. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to tell you what to do. Get to work. I have a list of things that need to be done, but it’s never the right time because there’s usually something more pressing. Maybe now is the time to work on some of those tasks.
  4. Don’t wait for permission look for opportunity. You don’t need permission to be an encouragement. You don’t need permission to pick up trash from the floor. You don’t need permission to engage. It takes a decision on your part to step up. Open your eyes. Look for opportunity and make a difference.
  5. Look to the past. There are peaks and valleys in life. By looking to the past, you gain perspective. These times of ambiguity that feel like an eternity don’t last forever. You got through before, you’ll get through again. If you need help getting that perspective, talk to a friend or a mentor or a neighbor.

Making the Best of All the Things

2020 will be whatever I make it to be.

There will be good things that happen.

There will be bad things that happen.

I’m reaching the age where I can expect some pretty big life events will happen around me that will have a big impact. Am I ready to take it in stride?

There will be joy and sorrow.

There will be ups and downs.

Some days I will feel good about things.

Some days I won’t.

I can’t control everything around me. Some days I’m like a ship on the sea tossed by the waves. Others I’m captain of my ship charting my course.

Making the best of all the things doesn’t mean I pretend the bad don’t happen. It means that I am content with the ebb and flow of life.

Those things that cause pain, hardship and struggle lead to growth and resilience.

The situations and circumstances that I’m afraid of are the ones that can make me stronger.

I can’t control the world around me, but I can choose joy and contentment.

Here’s to a great year!